too sad for anything else today

A good friend of mine who I have known for a long time, lost his wife suddenly last night after a routine surgery. She was 28 years old and they had been married for less than a year and a half. I can’t think about anything else right now, except how he and their families are doing. In my head, I am going down the line, thinking of the struggles that they have individually had and then wondering how they are holding up in this terrible time. I have no idea how to support them. I have no idea what to say. I know that this is common in this type of case, but I always have some sort of comforting words to say. I can’t find them now. I think it’s because this SHOULD NOT have happened. This was a young woman who had everything to live for, newly married, just bought their own first home, raising a child. None of this makes any sense and up until now, I was a firm believer in “everything happens for a reason”, I am losing faith in whatever is out there and I know my friend, who has had the most trying 10 years of his life, being hit from every possible angle with every possible bad thing that could ever happen to one person, is losing faith too and that rips me up inside. I wish there were something I could do to help ease his pain, but I can not bring his wife back and I know that nothing short of that will do right now. I don’t know anything right now. One of my best friends is a widower at 30. He didn’t get nearly enough time with his wife.